I have been thinking about friendship recently. Friends are such a joy in life aren't they? One of the elements that make life worth living. So the question is - how do you help your children make those friendships? I think there are many elements to this and it isn't an easy question to answer.
There are times when I worried for my children, times when they have faced that ogre of bullying, times when friends seem to be a poor influence, times when shyness has made them feel lonely and times when I could happily have, you know, shot one of the 'friends'. Mama tiger and her cubs and all that.
One of the key roles for a parent is to be a model for their children and that comes to friendships too. Mark and I have held our friendships dear, regularly meeting friends that are far away in miles if not in our hearts. Those meetings have been filled with conversation, teasing, laughter, music and love. Our children have always been a part of this, not through design but because that is what felt natural. Of course we haven't done this for the children - we have done it for ourselves, our own sanity and happiness but the children have benefited too.
Sometimes there is pleasure and gain.
If we like to have friends in our home then why wouldn't the children? It is a pleasure to me when children bring their friends home, although I have to confess that this pleasure has increased as the children have got older. I am naturally comfortable with teens and love their company and the energy they bring into the home.
Friendship can last for a lifetime. I hope that that will be as true for my children as it has been for us.
The image comes from my Pinterest board 'on the table' .